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scifitrash:

a graph depicting the frequency of lizard sex posting over time. ds9 is constantly high. voyager is negligible except on threshold dayALT

a phenomenon

piedude:

whitehairedanimeboyfriend:

sapphicshart:

overlyspecificmcrmemes:

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who wore it better?

they both wore it gayly and now they’re gonna make out

Why’s everyone always gotta pit two bad bitches against one another

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trollicorn:

justlgbtthings:

“i don’t block people just because of a difference of opinion” cool i do

this is a space where you can go “bestie you’re not on my enrichment team” and then throw them out of the window of your life without hesitation

badatwritingstuff:

tastesoftamriel:

From what I’ve gathered from my US friends, eggs have become hard to find and are super expensive. Likewise, it’s been hard to get your hands on eggs over here too, and I’ve only been able to get imported ones thus far. This is of course pretty frustrating for someone who uses eggs in cooking frequently.

If you’re struggling to afford eggs, and you live in areas where people keep chickens, your first point of call should be to chicken owners. You will be able to grab fresh eggs, generally at a cheaper price than supermarkets, and support local business too!

If you don’t have access to this, you can also use plant substitutes in your cooking. This is particularly useful for vegans and those with egg allergies too. I found this table, which will hopefully help you out with using egg substitutes in your cooking. ~Tal

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A very important addition:

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vacuously-true:

I would like to tell you about a time when my mental health was absolutely trash and I developed a sort of code with a few friends, in case anyone else might benefit from it.

There is a type of task which I would call “washing a dragon.” There were a variety of specific things that would fall into this category but broadly it meant something like, I need to do this thing and I have been putting it off because it will be hard but the longer I put it off the harder it actually becomes.

Like if I really need to wash a pet dragon, well the dragon doesn’t really like to be washed so it’s hard to fight with the dragon to get it washed but also the longer I put it off, the dirtier the dragon gets and so the harder the washing and fighting will be once I do it.

And for a real life example, I needed to email a professor whose independent study I was in, to tell him I needed to drop it or find some other solution because it was going to be so hard to catch up because we hadn’t met or worked in weeks, but this was a hard email because I was embarrassed and I wasn’t sure what the solution was going to be, but obviously the longer I put it off the harder the problem is to solve and the more embarrassing the email was going to be.

Washing a dragon was often something of this form, asking for help on something where the longer I wait the more help I need to ask for and the more embarrassing it is to admit I need it. But there were also other kinds of dragons to wash. And since they often had some amount of embarrassment to them (it’s embarrassing to leave the dragon unwashed for so long) it is hard to ask someone to help hold me accountable for finally doing the thing, or to ask them to make me sit with them until I do the thing.

But once I had this code in place I could just be like “hey I need to wash a dragon” and I didn’t need to say what the dragon was but a friend could say oh okay I will now pester you about washing the dragon multiple times a day until you do it, or I will make you sit next to me with your laptop until you have washed the dragon, if the dragon washing is a laptop-based task (forms, emails). This was very helpful. I washed a lot more dragons when I could have my friends hold me accountable, and I was more willing to do that if I didn’t actually have to tell them what the dragons were.

there-rises-a-red-star:

watermel9n:

Happy Second Century Warlord Slim Shady Sunday

slightly-awkward-sunshine:

slightly-awkward-sunshine:

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My stepdad is so fucking funny sometimes

#i think this is kind of a sweet thing to say anyway#‘your presence in my life has made me remember an otherwise forgettable day’#and the use of 'i didnt have a clue’ as if to say 'i was so foolish not to know that my daughter was being born’#even though there was no way he could have known#maybe im just a big sap but 🥹 (via @niamhuncensored)

Hi I just had to share these tags because !!! They are so sweet, but also really accurate to what my stepdad is like– like yes, you so succinctly interpreted the love in these joking messages. Suddenly a day in July of 1997 when he was a young cafe-working 26 year old becomes special, even though he wouldn’t know it for almost 20 years. He really stepped up (pun-intended) as a dad, too. He and my mom started dating when I was eighteen, and since I was an adult, its not like he had any obligation to parent me. But he looked at me and my three younger siblings, (all traumatized and troubled and distrusting because of our biological father) and said “yep, these are my kids now”. I remember him calling us that long before he and my mom were even married, striking up conversations with strangers, and if they asked him about kids, he’d laugh and say “I’ve got four!” He always seems so happy that he went from a family of one to a family of six, basically overnight.

When he proposed to my mom, he bought matching necklaces for us (and a watch for my brother), because he felt he was marrying into the family, not just my mom, and our blessing was really important to him. He’s helped me move, helped me with car trouble, talked me down from panic attacks, bought me a laptop for college, drove across LA at 6 in the morning to drop off my hearing aid because I left it at my mom’s house and he knew I didn’t like going to work without it: just doing a bunch of nice things that I had never experienced from a father-figure before. I wish everyone who has a bad or absent parent would get a loving step-parent replacement!!

tl:dr I love my stepdad and these tags made me cry

azu1as:

whats-a-reading:

aboutiroh:

azu1as:

zorostan:

zukkababey:

zukka au where aunt wu looks straight at sokka and instead of telling him that his future is full of pain and anguish caused by his own hand, she tells him that he’s going to marry the fire lord and sokka is like “EXCUSE ME?”

sokka, whispering to himself: omg my ability to making royalty fall in love with me has come too far

sokka, immediately writing a letter: dear firelord ozai, I am flattered, but since you are pretty old and super evil, I-

Sokka, while yelling insults at s1 Zuko: And tell your dad I’m not interested in having a jerk like you as a step-son!!

I need a whole plotline of Sokka wondering who this fire lord person is going to be

Season 2

Aang: I wish that Iroh guy was the Fire Lord, he seems pretty nice

Sokka: Yeah the Fire Nation would probably be better off with him as Fire Lord, but he’s so old and more of an uncle figure, you know? Not really my type.

Aang: What

Early season 3

Sokka, waking up in cold sweat: Oh no. What if… Azula is the future Fire Lord

Late season 3

Katara: Sokka what should we do? The invasion failed, we’ve been hiding in this temple for weeks and Sozin’s comet is almost here

Sokka, mumbling to himself: I hope Zuko becomes Fire Lord he’s pretty cool

Katara: what?

Sokka: I said we need to defeat the Fire Lord soon

Sokka internally having a Firelord tier list during the series is something that I never knew I wanted.

*when zuko and katara arrive right before azula’s coronation during sozin’s comet*

Zuko: Sorry. But you’re not going to be the one marrying Sokka.

Azula: What.

kaiyonohime:

briansfancies:

I’m very concerned that our society is much more interested in information than wonder, in noise rather than silence.

For a word to be spoken there must be silence. Both before and after. -Ursula K LeGuin

bruneburg:

bruneburg:

beastly reminder

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Almost. Years ago my computer suddenly stopped working and lost everything on it. Fortunately a relatively recent backup still existed bc of my family, a recent parts switch, and dumb luck. But last year a friend of mine got hacked and lost close to everything he had done creatively in the last 17-ish years. Art. Novels in progress. Entire conlangs. DnD character Sheets. Music he had made. All gone. He never backed any of it up. Few months later I started this habit (or ritual, almost) of drawing a reminder beast any time I would make a full complete backup. In hopes that seeing these things might remind others and myself. (Another factor here is that I am an animator and some of the stuff on my computer took literal years to make. And the film university I go to urges us to take this stuff seriously, too.)

lgbtunis:

lgbtunis:

lgbtunis:

common misconception! actually the only way to tell if someone is a top or a bottom is to know their preferences regarding penetrative sex ❤️

wait you guys actually think you can know someone’s sexual preference from their mannerisms or an internet persona? like. that wasnt a joke?

oh you think bottoming is feminine and weak and generally a “lesser” form of enjoying intercourse…. no no yeah thats totally a #queer progressive opinion and definitely not a take from like 500 B.C.

headspace-hotel:

headspace-hotel:

headspace-hotel:

headspace-hotel:

headspace-hotel:

Was reading on wikipedia about how lots of ancient cultures had beliefs and traditions where you had to offer prayers and/or sacrifices if you wanted to cut down a tree because you were basically killing the spirit that lived within the tree and if you did that without good reason bad stuff would happen to you

we should bring that back. if you want to clear cut a forest you have to pray and sacrifice on behalf of every single tree

The more I learn about ecosystems, the more I realize that characterizing “animistic” belief as superstitious and primitive is one of the dumbest lies ever told

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I, as well, am an animist (knows what a soil microbiome is)

Now I don’t know all the details about these religions all over the world with beliefs and practices like this.

But this way of believing says that a stream or a tree isn’t just a Thing, you can’t just use it however you want, it’s a Life and you owe it respect. And if you want to cut down a tree, you have to think really hard about whether you really need to use that tree, because there’s a Process, and you have to really think about and dwell on the fact that you’re killing something that’s alive and that gives life.

And the important thing is, if you see the trees and plants and rivers as sacred and living, dumping toxic radioactive waste in the water and clear cutting the forest is an unthinkable act of sacrilege. If you see that the mountains are sacred and have spirit, you can’t rip them wide open to blast and dig out coal with dynamite and pickaxes.

You know that if you violate the water, or the forest, or the mountains, with such destructive greed, something terrible will happen.

Unrelatedly, the Appalachian Mountains are haunted by something unknowably ancient and eldritch.

Before the invention of breath or bone, there stood the mountains.

mudwerks:

rpclefairy:

how to get rid of the shop button with the ‘new’ notification that doesn’t go away

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i see people asking how to get rid of this so here’s how you do it with ublock origin. i’m sure this method works for other adblocker extensions so feel free to experiment with them.

  1. open the ublock dashboard clicking here:
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2. the dashboard will open on another tab. there you go to my filters and add www.tumblr.com##div.KTRcB:nth-of-type(4) to the list. then click on apply changes.

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that’s it. refresh your tumblr dashboard and it should be gone.

it’s real and it’s terrific